The electronic cottage may not be as peaceful as the smiling faces in photographs on the home business websites might have us believe.

About 40 years ago, our self-employed family was featured in a local magazine. The photograph was lovely. It depicted two shiny faced little darlings perched on either arm of their mother's desk chair, as hubby looked on smilingly and supportively. The reality is that it took over an hour to get child number one to stop crying, child number two had just thrown up on another part of the rug, the laundry basket was hidden under the desk, and my husband and I hadn't spoken in two days. Just kidding. Sort of.

In spite of that chaos, my home business has survived and thrived (so have the kids and marriage!). But it has taken some planning, organization, and creativity. And many of these strategies can also apply to working at home if you are employed elsewhere, which is becoming increasingly common for a variety of reasons.

The home business owner wears many hats and has to deal with many conflicts between home life and business life, especially with children at home. Spillover is the term I use to describe the creeping, oozing migration of business into personal space and of family life into business space.

Spillover is the Great Dane answering the door when a client arrives. It's that final client report with happy faces drawn in the corners. It's when your two-year-old beats you to the business phone and won't give it up without a temper tantrum. It's when you want to work quietly and your teenagers want to party with their music at full blast.

The solution is separation. I don't mean to divorce your spouse and send the kids to an orphanage (however attractive that might seem some days). I mean to create a separate workspace with a door, a lock, and sound proofing if necessary.

Equip your office with technology to help you communicate a professional image. The client really doesn't have to know you have just stepped out of the shower, have a kid hanging on one leg and a kitten clawing its way up the other and that the smoke alarm is just about to go off because the toast is burning in the kitchen.

It may be difficult, but you will need to cultivate the ability to ignore distractions if you plan to get any work done. Personally, I've never had much trouble ignoring the dusting, but one home business owner I know says, "When I worked in an office and went for a drink, the water cooler didn't say 'clean me;' my refrigerator does. I have learned to ignore it."

You also need to learn how to deal with people who think because you are at home you are not working. Do not let friends keep you on the phone for hours during your working day. Try to have family treat you as if you weren't home during your working hours. Don't be available to take out the trash or go to the grocery store...until you take a scheduled break.

Obviously, the support of your partner and/or children is very important. If possible, include family members in the planning phase of your home business, so they realize what will be involved. Don't just let them come home one day to find you have turned the TV room into an office. Keep them in touch with your business successes, but try not to bore them with extended dinner table discussions of the intricacies of your enterprise.

Home business spillover is just one of the psychological issues that challenge home business owners, such as loneliness and isolation, motivation and procrastination, and workaholism. But keep the ooze in control and you'll be well on your way to mastering the rest.

Wendy Priesnitz is the editor of Natural Life Magazine and the author of 13 books,including Bringing it Home (now out of print).